Repeat after me.
I will apply all 8 of these tips daily. I understand that grasping life’s throat is not just about how much money you make, what you own, and how many abs you have. It’s about being a good-hearted person who lives life to the fullest. It’s about creating a life for your family to remember you by. It’s about changing someone’s day. It’s about changing someone’s life. It’s about loving steak and eating steak. It’s about knowing that everyone may not love steak like you do, but not making them feel like the cow. It’s about constantly trying to better yourself daily. It’s about knowing when you can give someone a wet willy and when not to. It’s about surrounding yourself with people who think wet willies are good-hearted when the time is favorable. It’s about being responsible for everything you do in life and learning from the consequences of losing. It’s about that one win. It’s about making the most out of the short life we were all given and the same opportunity to do whatever we want to do with it. It’s about all of us breathing the same air.
Read and apply, please.
1.) Don’t be so horrified of time. It’s longer than you think.
Have you ever procrastinated over the simplest thing? Like scrambling eggs and making coffee? It’s Sunday morning, you wake up, look at the clock and it’s 8:38AM. You’re like, “Man, it’s going to take me forever to make breakfast.” Might as well skip it or drive-thru because it’s quicker.
Next time – make it. Just prove to yourself how petrified of time you are. When I wake up on Sundays and look at the clock at 8:38AM, I let the dogs out, turn on the coffee pot, scramble eggs, pour some coffee, and sit down while I search for ways to stretch my hips . . .and when I look at the clock at it’s 8:45AM.
Seven minutes is a ton of time. One hour is a ton of time. Think about the things we can do in one week. One month. One year.
The fitness industry is loaded with time constraints. Have you ever watched the show Chopped on the Food Network? Contestants are given 20 minutes of time to make an impromptu appetizer with foods that throw you for a loop. You sit on the couch and think, “I can’t even make a PBJ in 20 minutes.” It’s because you’re afraid of time.
Think about the results you can get in one week. Think about the pounds you could lose in a month. Think about the miles you could run in a year. Think about the business you can build in 10 years. That’s what makes me not afraid of time. 10 years ago I had a dream to help people all around the world get fit. So very vague. I didn’t even know where to start. So I went to a couple seminars. Wrote a couple eBooks. Got fired from a couple jobs. Wasted a lot of money on advertising. Now I’m here.
That was ten years ago and that was all because 10 years ago, someone told me that it will take 10 years to build a business. From that moment and years of practice, I spit in time’s face. So next time you are given 20 minutes to make an appetizer out of hot dogs, purple asparagus, gravy mix, and candy canes . . . give Mr. Time a swift kick in the ass.
2.) Being nice will get you farther than being an asshole with something to prove.
All I can say is, when you’re driving, let the people who want to get over . . . get over. It’s one car length ahead of you and it’s not going to make a difference on your arrival time. It’s either that, or you can be one of the assholes that is slowing down the traffic jam that we are all caught up on in the first place.
Take that metaphor into life now. Be the nice guy who lets people over, because coming off as an aggressive asshole gets you three things – no more ahead of anyone else in life, the cause of more problems than you already are, and everyone will despise you.
I’m constantly reminding myself to just “let people over”.
3.) You will never know what other people are going through.
Men don’t know what it feels like to give birth. Women don’t know what it feels like to get kicked in the nuts. It’s a pretty reachy metaphor but an introduction into this nonetheless.
That being said, you’ll never be able to completely know how someone is feeling and what is going on in their life. Odds are, if they wanted to tell you or the world, they would. Probably on Facebook.
Some people though – and the one’s you have to be cautious of – are the one’s that don’t enjoy spreading their life story all over social media.
I can’t tell you how to handle this situation properly, because we’ve all questioned why someone didn’t show up and then found out to be a death in the family or traumatic event. Then you feel terrible afterwards.
I can say, that the cliche saying about walking in someone’s shoes is pretty accurate. You’ll never be able to wear another person’s shoes, just make sure you take yours off before you go stomping around their house.
4.) Having a sense of humor is the most underrated trait in the world.
“A sense of humor, is needed armor. Joy in one’s heart and laughter on someone’s face is a sign that a person deep down has a grasp on life.” ~Hugh Sidey
Focusing on knowing if someone is being malicious, funny, out of control, or serious is a crucial stepping stone for my job and friendships I’ve built. I get jokes. I like jokes! I also know the difference between a joke and a stab. Even when I’m not in the mood to joke. Nowadays, you can’t say anything without people pulling the offended card. It’s like walking on eggshells.
5.) “Do what you love.” *Reconstructed*.
I’m always taking things into perspective. The literal side of things is what made me understand the world better. So when I’m analyzing situations, I never take it with a grain of salt. I’m looking at the whole damn ocean. Take the famous inspirational quote for instance – “Do what you love.” When I look at that, I think . . . that’s genius. Who isn’t living their life to the fullest when they do what they love? That’s the grain of salt.
Then I look at the ‘ocean’ and think – Well, people love killing other people and finding new things to grind up and shoot in their arm, so why would I ever tell or want someone to do what they love when it obviously puts themselves or others in harm’s way?
Over the years I’ve started realizing that my whole ocean theory has held me back a tad. It holds other people back too. It’s just way too literal. When I hear the words “do what you love”, I translate the word love into my meaning of love. Not the general meaning of love. That meaning is too media.
When I’m helping people get out of a rut in fitness, self-confidence, bad-assery plateaus, or anything that involves making yourself become a better person – I trust them in the fact that they know their passions and their meaning of love and that they are just worried about the risks getting there. I’d never go up to a crackhead on the streets holding up a cardboard sign begging for money, stuff a 20 in his styrofoam cup and whisper, “Do what you love, bro.” I wouldn’t trust his meaning because he’s not thinking about the risks of spending that 20 on a case. His meaning for love means nothing to me. Without risks, there is no ‘love’ – or a better word . . . passion.
However I have to constantly remind myself, that if I’m going to make it in a world that is corrupted by people always trying to make other people feel like crap so they can make themselves feel better, then that means I have to stick to my barbells, family, music, kickball, craft beers, wilderness, charity work, bro hugs, nieces and nephews, and knowing I gave everything that I had. That’s what I love.
6.) Thank you, Please, Sir, Ma’am, Excuse Me.
The difference between . . .
“Excuse me. Do you have a jump rope?” “Thank you.”
. . . and . . .
“Ay, you got any jump ropes?” **Walks away**
. . . is literally the determining factor on whether I give someone a jump rope or not. I wasn’t raised to keep my elbows off the table when I eat, but I was definitely taught manners.
I don’t care if it’s the grocery clerk or the garbage man – all of them require proper manners if they’re doing you a favor. And, “ay yo” is never an acceptable term to get someone’s attention. This is a big difference in how they handle your favor the next encounter you have.
7.) If you want to understand someone the most, just watch how they work.
Some would say it’s based off a handshake. Some would say it’s by their walk. All that may be true – but just because some guy introduces himself to me and tries to crush my hand into a million pieces, doesn’t make me automatically think that he’s a good guy to have around. Let’s see if he cleans up his weights in the weight room or not; then we can consider him the next Hugh Jackman.
Work ethic is gargantuan. It’s apparent in fitness results too. People who don’t work hard have slow results. People who work hard see results daily.
Work ethic all stems from one word. Discipline.
I love the quote, “Discipline is the difference between goals and accomplishment.”
When I’m watching people work out, clean their business, take pride in customer service, or practice sports . . . I always watch how much pride they take in their work. These are disciplined, hard-working, skillful, and accomplished people. I take pride in my work and I honestly believe that the reason why retention in the Jungle Gym program is so great, is because disciplined people attract other disciplined people.
8.) You will fail.
Kobe Bryant missed more shots than he made. Brett Favre is the all-time leader in interceptions. The guy who invented sushi had to make rice 750 times before he perfected its stickiness.
While the sushi stat may not be true, it’s still how monumental things are achieved nowadays. I have to remind myself daily that I’m not going to be perfect. I’m going to get turned down. I’m going to miss personal lifting records. I’m going to hurt myself sometimes.
Always bring yourself to peace that a failure is just simply finding different ways that won’t work. Failure is one thing. Giving up is the other. Winston Churchill said, “Never, ever, ever give up.” He also lost every single election until he was 62 and he failed 6th grade twice.
Thank you for reading. This is where your body changes,