The most important attribute in all of life is patience. It’s been a year of patience for me. Things are coming together though. I can’t really wrap up my thoughts other than my speech that I nervously said in front of 100 clients at this year’s Jungle Gym Christmas party. I’ve been challenged this year with lots of things personally and professionally, and the one main factor in getting through all of it was patience.
I think back even just a year ago to where I was then, to where I am now. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn’t sound like a lot has been accomplished, but it has. It’s a ‘never give up’ attitude that I will forever put into the minds of my clients, future kids, future grandkids, and anyone else who trusts me.
This year I plan on being the same man I always have been, being even more patient, and respecting the process.
This life is about adapting. You don’t come out of your mother’s womb and wake up and say, “This is me. This is who I am.” You adapt. You become something different every time something effects you, and the great thing is that you will never stop going through this process. You will always adapt to people and those who refuse, are the one’s who are lost. They’re uncoachable. They’re the ones who do the stabbing in the back and not the slapping in the face when you need it.
I gave up the personality of being the biggest, baddest, and best trainer in the world years ago. I didn’t want to be that TV personality like Jillian Michaels, where she just yells at you in your face and then says it’s just a tough love game. No offense to Jillian, but in the real world . . . that shit won’t work. We all know that’s not her personality. She’s probably the sweetest woman you will ever meet.
To me, being a successful fitness coach, I’d rather be known as someone you can mold to, than a good trainer that isn’t real. So with the help of my family growing, my traveling, my friends, and my health . . . I have adapted. That wasn’t me.
Adapting comes with one thing; patience. Without it we are just a bunch of close-minded people setting themselves on fire giving up easily on things that require just a little more patience and . . .
Nevermind . . .
This speech will explain it all.
Jungle Gym is growing and expanding. We are doubling our size. We are adding over 20K in equipment that will better the program. We’ve added multiple coaches who love coaching others and adapting to them. This year the possibilities are endless and finally all the patience has come and slapped us in the face.
December 17th, 2017 – Location: Oozlefinch Craft Brewery at the Jungle Gym Christmas Party
“I’ve got to be honest with you. This year was my greatest challenge in all of Jungle Gym. Every time I focused on a weakness of mine, and strengthened it, another weakness popped up. I ended up finding that this was a vicious cycle in my job. I would work on communication, then my training would suffer. I would focus on training, then my programming would suffer.
I feel likes it’s all a part of life. Think about it. When you focus on your running goals, your strength levels suffer. When you focus on your eating habits, your energy suffers. When you focus on yourself and being the happiest you can be, your weight suffers. I always have to be cognitive of this. The moral of this comes later in the speech.
Back in February, I was offered to run my own building when OneLife some-what offered me the Grainger spot next door. It sparked a fireworks session in my mind about growing the business and having the ability to fulfill my dream of operating my own gym. Ever since, I’ve been focused on getting out of OneLife Fitness.
It wasn’t until recently when I realized that the quality of the gym has nothing to do with the sexiness of the locker rooms, the fanciness of the equipment, or the color of walls it has. I realized that what makes programs like this so devastatingly epic is the people who fill the room. That’s what makes the program so great. You literally know everyone you are working out with. The fastest and firmest way to a great friendship is formed with the sweat, fear, and pain that you share. I wholeheartedly believe in this. I have to realize that this is the mantra of Jungle Gym. It is not the room we are in.
My biggest flaw of all is the fact that I don’t even know what the f*** I’m doing. I take a step back and look at the program and think . . . man . . . this class is filled with successful business minded people that trust me. A 30 year old, non educated boy, that still watches WWE wrestling, plays air guitar to rap music, and dislocates his shoulder sliding into home plate during a kickball game, that grew up right down the street. And they trust me with a class that can change someone’s life?
Then I realize that I am one of you. You are me. And that’s what brings us together. We aren’t here to compete in the Olympics. We aren’t here to prove to anyone our worth, and if you are . . . stop. You are worthy. And that’s how you make me feel. Extremely worthy.
I’ve been lucky in my life. I was raised well. I’m medically healthy. I have two amazing animals. A warm house. I haven’t faced much yet. Nor do I want to. And I always get asked why I do charity work, and I’ll tell you the main reason. It brings us together. That’s probably why I like beer so much. For instance, Russell, the owner of this brewery . . . beer brought us together. Now we have a friendship that is able let him allow me to bring in possibly 130 drunk strangers that all can do more push-ups than him.
I know I can’t single handedly change the world. But if I have 130 sober individuals that can help me, we can do a ton of great damage to the community surrounding us. I don’t really know if you guys know what you have done for this community this year.
We raised $4,815 in money to charity this year. This morning I dropped off 50 toys to underprivileged children. We fed local law enforcement and first responders. We helped a family member in need when she lost her husband to cancer (We love you Kimbo). We helped people lose weight and find best friends. I’m still waiting for that first Jungle Gym marriage . . . (Pitt Daddy, where you at?). What I’m saying is, yes, we toss around Kettlebells, and do burpee pull ups, and have emotional break downs, but we are human. We are not superhuman. We are each other in every single way, and I have come to accept that just because 5 years ago I liked to yell and scream a lot, throw fits, and probably be borderline irritating to some, I have adjusted my lifestyle around you.
I may be wrong, and this may be my opinion, but I can be raised to think that my feet don’t stink, but once I smell everyone else’s, I realize that adapting to my surroundings, and giving up some of my pride was the best thing that I ever did for this business and for the fact that there’s no money value on the time and effort you put into something. Things don’t just fall in your lap in this world. You need people to help you.
There are 5 things I live my life by. 12 years ago I did not have this list.
1. Honesty is the best policy.
2. To get respect, you have to show respect.
3. I am not perfect.
4. If you want it, go get it.
5. Never comment on Sasha’s Facebook posts because you’ll get notifications for the next 6 hours.
Actually. . .
5. Be proud but never satisfied.
I hope you leave here, show up Monday and realize that pride is one thing, but it is also the longest distance between two people, and in order to succeed in this industry and in this program, community is strength.
I want you all to realize, that every decision I have made has been because I feel like it’s best for the program. Not myself. Not for one individual in the program. But for the whole thing. I’ve gone through a lot of broken promises this year, and some people forgave, and some didn’t . . . but I need to thank you, from the bottom of my heart, that you guys have made me into the man I am today, and that I will continue to demonstrate my flaws and hope that you can help me fix them instead of me being the almighty. Because I don’t want to be. I want to be you.”
This is where your body changes,