“No one should be frustrated when you achieve results. A pound is a pound and 15 pounds is 15 pounds. Being motivated is about being consistent, confident, and not feeling guilty. Your goal is to get to that point in life. I just want people to think about things with logic. You can’t get what you want sitting back, sucking your thumb, and waiting for shit to happen. You have to take the thumb out of your mouth, skip the cheese, and lift some damn weights.”
All my life, I’ve been known as the guy in the gym who yells at his clients while swinging a kettlebell. Who pushes people to the limits. The guy who enforces his class structure and passions upon the class.
They’re exactly right.
My mother always told me that she never spanked me unless I put myself or someone else in harm’s way. That way I’ll never forget that moment. I have no idea if that has translated that into my training, but I feel like it’s a pretty accurate way of training a human being.
From across the room, I may be a drill sergeant. When you are up close and personal, I’m not spitting in your face. I’m wiping sweat from your face. My passion in this business runs deep and my love for the game is often mistaken as anger.
I’m not gonna lie. People are tough to train. I have had some clients that just don’t take advice. They do whatever they want.
I’ve had some clients that shut down when you motivate them or try and push them. Then when you don’t show them the attention they want, because they shut-down, they feel abandoned.
I’ve had some clients that don’t believe in themselves.
I’ll always try and fit personality with training methods, but I’ll never allow someone to not progress or get results on my time. It’s something I refuse to do. I’m a butt-smacker. A back-patter. A puke catcher. A puppet, I am not.
I understand this doesn’t work for everyone, but this way of training has led me to a program that has over 150 active members.
That being said. . .
The hardest part about my job is definitely dealing people who lack motivation. When I see a client frustrated with results or lacking the motivation to maintain a healthy lifestyle, I always blame myself. In reality, this is something that I cannot train. No one can. Tony Robbins. Oprah. The Rock. No one can teach self-motivation. It hurts knowing someone looks at themselves not like the way everyone else looks at them.
Here’s the main problem, and here’s what I need you to answer immediately. What is it that you want? Do you want to be happy with yourself? Do you want abs? Do you want to be strong? Do you want to live a social life and eat whatever you want? How is this going to work? Unfortunately, most body types can’t have the cake and eat it too.
People’s lack of not knowing what they want hurts them tremendously. They suffer from reaching goals because . . . they don’t have a goal. They’re just along for the ride. You might as well just close your eyes and whatever you point at on the menu is whatever you’re ordering for dinner. Progress just doesn’t work without an end game. I’ve never met a client that didn’t want progress, and honestly, I don’t think I’d want a client who didn’t want progress. Bettering yourself is something I crave.
As we all know from personal experiences, you can’t eat whatever you want and maintain a body you desire.
You have to plan. You have to commit. You have to indulge. Yes, indulging is a part of life.
But how much?
“In between goals is a thing called life, and it has to be lived and enjoyed.” ~ Sid Cesar
You have no idea, do you?
That’s most people’s issue. They just don’t know.
It’s not going to be a trainer telling you that you’re doing great when your lack of motivation is obviously making you suffer. It’s not going to take magical quotes by celebs to get you to where you want to be.
It’s going to take knowing exactly what you want and never stopping. Whether it be your marriage, your body, your desires in life, or your education; it is all endless. I’ve come up with 21 questions that may help you bring back the fire that got you started in the first place. Honestly, you probably can answer the questions easily, you just need a smack in the arse to wake you up a bit.
1.) What is your ideal life?
2.) What matters the most about your body?
3.) What are you doing to help the things that matter the most about your body?
4.) Does it matter what people think about you?
5.) If you were a trainer, how would you motivate yourself?
6.) Do you let other people help you or do you handle everything on your own?
7.) If you could represent one thing in this world, what would it be?
8.) What are you busy with today? Will it be important to you in 2 years?
9.) When was the last time you surprised yourself?
10.) What is your favorite outdoor activity?
11.) What is your hardest thing to give up in your diet?
Really try and figure out how you can incorporate all of these answers into your life. Focus on your goals.
Rank in order of importance to you. A lot of these are hypothetical, just to great your brain functioning on importances again:
A. How you look B. How you feel C. How strong you are D. Pizza, wings, and beer
A. Legs B. Waist C. Arms D. Lungs and heart
A. Warming Up B. Socializing before class C. An extra minute of sleep
A. Cats B. Dogs C. Television D. Books
A. Muscle Building B. Strength C. Conditioning D. Recovery
A. Warming Up B. The Workout C. The Cool Down
Whatever you ranked first should be a testament of how you live life. If you ranked something second or third, but you want it to be first, then let’s work on making it first. If your workout is more important than your cool down, but you are walking around hurting all the time, then we may need to rearrange priorities.
Fill in the blanks:
1.) My top 5 favorite people to work out with are _______.
2.) My top 5 favorite exercises are _______.
3.) My top 5 least favorite exercises are _______.
4.) The best workout I’ve ever had was _______.
Sometimes we just need a reminder of things. Things to stay away from and things to surround yourself with.
This is where your body changes,